A divorce can’t possibly be good for your child, can it?
The effects of divorce on children are obviously different for every child. However, the good news is that these effects may not be as harmful as you think. This is especially true for younger children. Read further to learn more about a few ways in which children actually “benefit” from divorce.
According to Dalton Conley from TheAtlantic.com, “Early childhood is critical. The earlier we turn back the clock in a child’s development, the more profound the impact of their environment.”
It’s vitally important to remember that the divorce doesn’t hurt children. Friction between parents and the volatile environment it causes is one of the biggest culprits. Once the situation is defused, things typically begin to get better.
This is one of the most beneficial effects of divorce on children. Obviously, it takes time and won’t happen overnight. But, it probably won’t take long to see improvement in the following areas.
A Reduction in Tension
As explained in a recent Huffington Post article, it’s very difficult to hide a tumultuous relationship from children. When there’s tension in the house, everyone is on edge and unhappy. In most cases, the higher the level of tension, the more kids tend to exhibit behavioral problems such as acting out or not doing well in school.
You’ll find that the majority of this household tension will probably dissipate once you separate from your spouse. In turn, your children should start to revert back to their happier selves, one day at a time.
Of course, they may still experience a certain level of nervousness until they get used to the divorce and their new way of life. But, in time you should see major improvements on everyone’s part.
Shared Custody Sometimes Means More Quality Time
With shared custody, children get the opportunity to spend quality time with both parents separately. Why is this sometimes better? The answer is simple. In households where parents aren’t divorced, it’s typically one parent that takes on the majority of child rearing.
Post-divorce, kids get the benefit of being the focus of attention in both households.
Many parents who share custody make a concerted effort to plan vacation time and days off when it’s their turn to have the kids. That way, they’re more able to spend quality time together. It’s a win-win situation for everyone.
Happier Dispositions and the Effects of Divorce on Children
It stands to reason that when parents are happier, children are happier too. After all, smiles and laughter ARE contagious! That’s not to say that your kids should never see you sad. Obviously, you need to grieve over the divorce.
But, as each day goes by, being a single parent will get easier and you and your children will be able to find more and more happiness.
At Galbraith Family Law, our team of divorce lawyers are here to help you and your children get through a separation and back on track to a brighter future. With offices in Newmarket, Barrie, and Orillia, we have helped countless families with this difficult time. Please contact us today to request a consultation.