1. Make Connections
Connecting with others provides social support and strengthens resilience. One way to foster a connection is to build a strong family network to help support your child. Also, teach your child to make friends. Friendship will help develop empathy, the ability to feel another person’s pain, and this will deepen your child’s connections.
2. Help your child to help others
By helping others, children who feel helpless gain a sense of empowerment and accomplishment. Engage your child in age-appropriate volunteer work or ask for assistance on a task that can be managed easily.
3. Maintain a daily routine
Children crave structure in their lives, and a regular routine is both predictable and comforting. Encourage your child to develop his or her own routines. They’ll be more likely to stick to the routine if they are part of the decision-making process.
4. Take a break
Children are overloaded with information that may sometimes upset them. Conversations, the internet, the news, or thoughts and discussions about separation and divorce can be overwhelming. Make sure your child has the opportunity to take a break.
5. Teach your child self-care
Be a good example and teach your child about healthy eating, exercise, and rest and relaxation. Your child will be more balanced and better deal with stressful times.
6. Move towards your goals
Praise, even for baby steps toward a goal, will allow your child to focus on an accomplishment rather than what they have yet to accomplish. This can help build the resilience needed to move forward in the face of a challenge.
7. Nurture a positive self-view
Teach your child to see the humour in life and have the ability to laugh at themselves. Remind them of the times they’ve successfully handled past hardships and help them understand that past challenges help build the strength needed to handle future challenges.
8. Keep things in perspective and maintain a hopeful outlook
An optimistic and positive outlook enables your child to see the good things in life and keep going even in the hardest of times. Although your child may be too young to consider a long-term outlook on his/her own, help them to see that there is a future beyond the current situation and that the future can be good.
9. Look for opportunities for self-discovery
Show your children that hardship can teach them what they are made of. Tough times are often the times when children learn the most about themselves
10. Accept that change is part of living
Transition is often frightening for children and teens. Help your child see that change is part of life and that new goals can replace goals that have become unattainable.
By Sue Cook of Family TLC
Divorce Coach and Parenting Coach
www.FamilyTLC.ca