Separation means change for the whole family, including the children.
When you are negotiating, remember the following:
Work With a Family Specialist
A Family Specialist can help you develop a time-sharing arrangement that works for your family and recognizes your child’s personal and developmental needs. Usually, the Family Specialist is part of the Collaborative Process, which is an effective way of resolving issues without having to go to court.
Consistency Matters
Children need consistency and predictability, so a consistent arrangement works best.
Be Flexible for Special Opportunities
Be flexible when special events or opportunities arise for the children to participate in an activity they would enjoy.
Support Relationships With Both Parents
Children need a meaningful relationship with both parents.
Put Your Ego Aside
Park your ego. This is about what is best for your children.
Adapt as Kids Grow
As the children mature and their needs change, you may have to change the time-sharing arrangements.
Use a Written Parenting Plan
A written parenting plan ensures that there is no ambiguity. It can always be changed over time or for special occasions by agreement.
Let Kids Love Freely
Kids have a right to love both parents. Give them the opportunity.
Avoid Court When Possible
Do your best to stay out of court so your children don’t get caught in a legal war. Collaborative Practice is a better option.
Alternate or Share Holidays
Special holidays are sometimes shared or alternated each year.
Don't Stress About Special Dates
Children enjoy the prospect of celebrating a special occasion twice, so don’t focus on having special occasions twice: two birthdays, two Christmases, two Easters and two Thanksgivings. So don’t worry about having a particular day. It will work out.